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How might the world change if those who nurture relationships were rewarded for the value that they create?

“At once radical and sensible, with the potential to mitigate a great deal of sadness and pain.”

ANDREW SOLOMON author of Far From the Tree

“A clear-eyed telling of what happens when we invest in relational containers—and the consequences when we don’t.””

LENNON FLOWERS co-founder and executive director of The Dinner Party

Relationality is for people who believe in the power of relationships and who struggle inside of institutions which fail to understand and invest in that power. Grounded in foundational scientific principles and movement organizing practice, Relationality shows how readers can create the conditions for relationship and demonstrate the impact of their work without relying on transactional metrics.

Relationality is available now from North Atlantic Books wherever books are sold.

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About The Book


In Relationality, veteran movement organizer David Jay equips professionals, activists, and community organizers with the knowledge they need to fight for resources and build organizational cultures that center the work of building relationships. It includes:

  • A history of why so many institutions fail to invest in relationships
  • A call to repair lineages of relational wisdom that have been extracted from and forgotten
  • A guide to creating the conditions for relationship that draws from both scientific research and established organizing practice
  • A framework for those who want to drive investment in relational impact

With isolation and loneliness on the rise, Relationality offers a roadmap toward a world of abundant connection: one where individuals, organizations, and democratic societies know how to invest in the relationships they need to thrive.

About the Author


A photo of a white man in his 40s wearing a blue shirt

David Jay is a community organizer with a background in physics born and raised in St. Louis, Missouri. From founding the Asexual Visibility and Education Network to working in the heart of the tech reform movement, David has centered the work of building relationship as a tool for healing and driving social change. His research and writing centers on the reasons why these important relational tools so often go underappreciated and underfunded and on how that reality might change. David is regularly invited to speak at conferences and universities on topics ranging from asexuality to movement organizing to tech reform to queer family structure. David lives with his two co-parents and two children in Oakland, California.

Events


Relationality is a call to action. We will face a mounting loneliness crisis and degrading democratic institutions so long as our most powerful institutions fail to recognize and resource relational work.

To change that reality, readers of Relationality are invited to a series of conversations designed to connect those of us who share a vision for a more relational world.

Events are held virtually, generally on the third Friday of every month at 3PM ET/1PM CT/12PM PT. More details will be made available after registration.

To join these events, please fill out the following form:

Contact


For press inquiries, please contact: press@relationalitybook.com

For speaking inquiries, please contact: speaking@relationalitybook.com

For support with your organization's relational impact reporting, please see Relationality Lab.

For all other requests, please contact: hello@relationalitybook.com