Building paths out of loneliness heals our bodies, unlocks our creativity, and builds collective power that our world desperately needs.
“At once radical and sensible, with the potential to mitigate a great deal of sadness and pain.”
“A clear-eyed telling of what happens when we invest in relational containers—and the consequences when we don’t.””
Relationality is a call to invest in the transformative and structurally undervalued work of enabling human connection. Grounded in foundational scientific principles and movement organizing practice, Relationality explores how we create the conditions for relationship, why this work receives to little investment, and how learning to invest in relational work could radically transform our lives and our world.
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About The Book
In Relationality, veteran movement organizer David Jay equips professionals, activists, and community organizers with the knowledge they need to fight for resources and build organizational cultures that center the work of building relationships. It includes:
- A history of why so many institutions fail to invest in relationships
- A call to repair lineages of relational wisdom that have been extracted from and forgotten
- A guide to creating the conditions for relationship that draws from both scientific research and established organizing practice
- A framework for those who want to drive investment in relational impact
With isolation and loneliness on the rise, Relationality offers a roadmap toward a world of abundant connection: one where individuals, organizations, and democratic societies know how to invest in the relationships they need to thrive.
About the Author
David Jay has spent his life building relationships that lead to collective care and collective power. From founding the Asexual Visibility and Education Network to working in the heart of the tech reform movement, David has centered the work of building relationship as a tool for healing and driving social change. His research and writing centers on the reasons why these important relational tools so often go underappreciated and underfunded and on how that reality might change. David is regularly invited to speak at conferences and universities on topics ranging from asexuality to movement organizing to tech reform to queer family structure. David lives with his two co-parents and two children in Oakland, California.
Events
We need to invest in the work of building relationship, both in our own lives and within our most powerful institutions, if we are to stave off the lonliness crisis and resist a backsliding of our democracy.
That's why we will be partnering with the Modern Family Institute to host a conversation series on building communities of care. Every month we'll hear from inspiring leaders, then break into groups to discuss our own journeys to nurture collective care in our lives.
The next event will take place on March 25th, 2025 at 5PM ET/8PM PT.
You can RSVP here.
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Contact
For press inquiries, please contact: press@relationalitybook.com
For speaking inquiries, please contact: speaking@relationalitybook.com
For support with your organization's relational impact reporting, please see Relationality Lab.
For all other requests, please contact: hello@relationalitybook.com